" At this point she feels that she has lost everything she had. All the hopes and all the beliefs she possessed are destroyed to their very roots leaving the girl to start it all over again. The realization of her plans fails, the life choice she makes leaves her without any support. Exactly at this moment her values start "mutating," activating the girl's "defensive mechanism." Subconsciously she may even feel offended and disappointed with both of the man she loved for having left her on her own. She feels the unfairness of the occurring events and cannot find a reason to explain. These doubts transform her values in order to save her from getting hurt again. A personal relationship stops being the source of love, care and being herself but a source of a possible future loss and pain. Her grief transforms into a powerful block whose main goal is self-preservation. Plans for life start completely being based on self-dependence and saving emotions and feelings. The family value is replaced by the value of reliable people around. The fact that she has lost two dearly loved man makes her vulnerable. Her new life motto becomes: " Better to prevent, than to suffer later." She tries not to get emotionally involved, but deeply respects mutual feelings. Before the tragedy personal relationships used...

The thing she values the most is the confidence. The confidence that the man that is next to her will always stays there. It is completely natural that the "discharge" she feels is the protection she needs desperately to cope with her grief. Her other way is setting new goals. These goals concern studying and career plans in the first place. High activity on works makes her feel needed. Her work is very reliable due to her respect towards this personal quality.
The whole process of transformation of the values of a 19-year-old girl after the misfortunes she faces is a way from taking things for granted to understanding the real value of what she had and can have. It is a process of getting experience and basing the life values on this experience mainly. At the end this results in a square refusal to be open to new personal relations having though a great respect and admiration towards them. So starting with the death of her father the girl starts realizing the true values that the family carries inside, the values of having someone to love and having confidence that this person will not leave. And there is no doubt in her deep desire to love and be loved, holding the family values in her heart.